Thoughts on a thriving life.
Read any a preschool parenting book or talk to any professional about how to get through the preschool years successfully and they will most likely mention the importance of offering choices to preschoolers. Over and over again we are told to offer choices to our children rather than telling or demanding that they do something. But something I’ve learned along the way is that how we offer choices to our kids is as equally important as offering choices to our kids.
Why is it important to offer choices to kids? As parents, our job is to teach our children. A critical part of this job is teaching them how to make decisions. I don’t know about you, but I want to raise children who are confident, children I can trust to make a good decision. Right now my kids are 5 and 7. Most days I don’t think about what life will be like in ten years when they are 15 and 17 or in twenty when they are out of the house and establishing lives of their own. However, by teaching them how to make decisions now, I am helping build a solid foundation for us to work from later in life.
Here’s another important developmental reason to offer choices. Offering choices builds self-awareness and self-esteem. When children have ownership of their choices and understand the consequences of their choices, they are building an internal script of confidence. We are teaching them that they have the ability to be in control of a decision and to be successful.
Here are some thoughts to keep in mind when offering choices to you preschool aged kids.
As a Parent Coach, I often hear parents comment that they offer their children choices but they still feel like they are always fighting their children to do what they want them to do. I can offer thoughts like I did above but I don’t know you, your kids or your family. That's what I love about Parent Coaching. When I work one-on-one or in a small group with people, I get to hear each clients story and help them discover the strengths that are equipping them to be the best parents for their children! I'd love to chat with you about any struggles you have and work with you to build the groundwork for a thriving life. Send me an e-mail or schedule a free phone consultation to find out how Parent Coaching can help you!
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