Thoughts on a thriving life.
Do you ever have a picture in your head or a dream in your heart that is so deep and so strong that you start to believe that only once you are actually living this dream will you find true happiness or peace?
I've lived this way. I still live this way sometimes although I am learning the emptiness that comes with living dependent on things or on people for my joy. Where I am looking for my happiness? Where do I find joy? What is my hope in? It so easy to be sucked into the trap of believing that acquiring the right toys, being friends with the right people, or that having lots of money will bring me what I want. The phrase "When I have...., then I'll be happy" takes up residency in my heart and robs me of life right now.
I don't know about you, but I have found this phrase to be one of the biggest lies. It steals my hope, joy, peace, my thankfulness and leaves me feeling alone, inadequate, short-fused, and hopeless. A new house brings me joy for a moment, but it's just a matter of time before I visit a friend's house that is bigger and better than mine and what use to bring me happiness now just reminds me of what I don't have. A new relationship is full of hope, happiness, and usually peace but after time the other person will fail me. They are human. Its a fact of life. If I am looking to the relationship for my joy, happiness or even my self-worth, I will be disappointed.
Joy, delight, happiness, hope, peace, patience, and even thankfulness don't come from the stuff or even the people in my life but rather from a place deep inside of me. I am learning that it is more about who I am in the midst of my circumstances and less about what I have or don't have. It is a simple shift from "having" to "being."
Sounds simple enough to write about but so much harder to put into practice. The pull of the world around me is strong. I can't do it alone. For me, it is all about the foundation of my life. If I am building my life on the stuff of this world, it is only a matter of time before a storm comes and all of it is washed away leaving me bitter and hopeless. But if my foundation is grounded in something stronger, when the storms come, my joy, hope, delight, and peace remain. The only foundation strong enough to endure all of life's storms is Jesus. "And what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul?" (Mark 8:36) My soul, the place deep within me that knows Jesus, is the only place I can find true hope, joy, delight, patience, happiness, love, and thankfulness.
In the quiet moments of my day, here are some questions I'm asking myself that are helping me live out the simple, yet difficult practice of being rather than having:
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